Tuesday, March 12, 2013

little annoyances

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” - Marilyn Monroe

I have always loved this quote. While I'm sure as gorgeous as Marilyn was, any man would have put up with all her crazy, the good kind & the bad, I agree that to love someone you have to love their endearing & annoying qualities, the best & the worst (yes, that "&" is bolded, underlined AND italicized for emphasis).

I never thought that I would find myself living with a man, my significant other, before marriage, but that is the situation that I find myself in & I have to say, it is pretty fun.

Things are by no stretch of the imagination "perfect" - we are currently potty training the puppy, sometimes neither one of us wants to make dinner, I wake up on the wrong side of the bed (way more times than I care to admit), he doesn't read my mind nearly enough... yadda yadda yadda.
But I am living with my best friend, and I have to pinch myself daily.

Just to pull back the curtain of perfection that I'm sure all of you assume I live behind (sarcasm), here are some things that annoy us about each other:
- when I want something done, I want it done NOW (& he doesn't always move to the beat of my drum)
- he wakes up first thing in the mornings ready to go, I need 2-7 snoozes
- he thinks I grind my teeth against the metal silverware when I eat (I don't hear it)
- I don't understand why he has over/under 4 pairs of shoes in the living room at all times
- um, the toilet seat! He says it is just as much work for me to lower it back down as it is for him to raise it each time... but pretty sure he has never fallen in (I don't want to talk about it)
- I get on to him for never putting his clothes up, & then I look at the floor around my closet & have to eat all. my. words.
- he says I use up all the hot water (have you seen how much hair I have??)
- I pretend to not know how to work the DVR, he pretends to not know where anything is in the kitchen 

Do you guys have the same "little annoyances" in your relationship?
What are some others on your list?
Let's see who puts up with the most ;)


  1. I could definitely copy a few of these. My husband's idea of "now" is whenever he gets to it, but he forgets 99% of the time. He's getting better though. And about the toilet seat, a majority of things done in the bathroom require sitting, only one requires standing (and honestly it doesn't REQUIRE it) so the seat stays down. Period.

  2. I think every couple has little annoyances with each other. My bf and I don't live together yet (we're working on making that happen soon!) but luckily for us we are very similar in terms of neatness, so that's one less thing to worry about! He does leave the sink all messy after washing his face and I always end up wiping it up afterward haha

  3. My husband and I moved in together long before we were engaged and it was so fun, but we quickly learned all the little habits that each had. We have the same list of annoyances. This is so funny!

  4. Similarly, my husband and I moved in together before we got married and I now would recommend it to any couple considering marriage. It's definitely a learning experience but can be oh-so-fun!

    Haute Child in the City

  5. Oh man, I eat my words far too often. We don't share bathrooms and I think that could be the biggest saving grace in our marriage, ha. I can't handle all those whiskers in the sink and he can't handle that I leave my shoes in the living room all. the. time.

  6. After 10 years of marriage we've pointed out our little annoyances to each other so many times that we just laugh about it now. We can see them coming and realize it's futile. I will always complain about certain things and he will always leave his clothes on the floor, etc. Along with driving each other insane, I also find that ten years later he is still cracking the same silly jokes that make me laugh, holds my hand in the car and always is trying to pinch my butt (ha!)... so the good tends to outweigh the bad!

  7. Haha I love this..I think every couple has little quirks that annoy each other–love that you were honest about yours! I've never lived with a guy, but I've definitely experienced what it's like. I had a boyfriend who used to tuck the sheets in SUPER tight and weird when he made the bed. I like my bed "just so" haha...it always drove me nuts!

  8. Haha, great post. I've only been living with my SO for a couple of months so far, but really I do love it (especially after being long-distance for 2.5 years!) I think he has to put up with more, because I often wake up crabby and I'm an introvert that needs my space. But, I'm learning to love his floordrobe, the left-over shaving hair on the bathroom sink, and having no space in our queen sized bed. But, realy, I wouldn't have it any other way.

  9. After living with my SO for 9 months a few years back (and his roommates, which made me promptly find my own place), we are moving back in together. Having all of my things in one place is going to completely outweigh anything he does that annoys me!

    I think the biggest annoying quirk is his need to reorganize things. It's nice that he wants to keep things as organized as possible, but it's not nice when I need to grab a shirt or something and it's not in the spot I left it in. But I suppose that's small potatoes!

  10. LOL! I love this post because I can totally relate! We love living together, but there are a million little things that happen that from the outside people don't know. But, at the end of the day, we just laugh off all of the annoyances and the things we have to put up with for each other!

  11. Grace - Stripes & SequinsMarch 12, 2013 at 12:07 PM

    haha this post is hilarious. I know I drive my guy nuts because I leave my shoes all over the place and cannot for the life of me work my TV! I get annoyed with him because he refuses to do his dishes..

  12. I love that Marilyn quote, I've never read that before. And, I agree with you, we all have little annoying habits, but that's what makes us unique. :)

  13. Love the quote. Must add one annoyance to the list: the way he puts dishes in the dishwasher :)
    Otherwise your list is almost spot-on with mine. xoxoxo

  14. Hahaha....oooh the joys of co-habitation! All these things you are listing bring me such fond memories of the first couple years of living with my now husband. We are to the point now that we can mostly laugh at each others idiosyncrasies or at least shake our heads & have a little chuckle instead of a huge blowout fight.

    Over the years, I've definitely learned how to pick my battles. As time goes on, BIG annoyances will start creeping in & you have to let go of some of the small ones so you can address the big ones. Ya know?

    And by the way - I am glad you are "test driving" living together before getting engaged etc. IMO, it's the best way to go. It's harder to call things off if you're engaged (or married). So if you live together for a while & things don't go as you planned, it's a little bit easier to break up & move out than canceling wedding plans. (I know this still isn't easy, I hope you know what I mean..) If you can get through the tough times of learning all these annoying habits each other has, & you still WANT to be together on the other side? Marriage material.

    Good luck, Jess. And enjoy it! You're right - it's soooooo worth it!! :-)

  15. oh girl. I loved reading this. Chris and I are on our 4th year of living together (and yes, this living in sin thing is getting old now. ahemmmm). There have definitely been our up and downs but I do love it a lot (even though I'm currently living by myself. hmph).

  16. Hahaha, yup. Kevin and I have been married and living together for almost 3 years, and we're still trying to manage some of those little annoyances you speak of - but I still love, love, love being married and living together!

  17. haha yea, all the comments are pretty hilarious. Yet again blogging confirmed that I'm not alone!

  18. Omg yes! Haha living with my boyfriend (/best friend) is definitely the best thing ever, but there are still plenty of those things that I find myself getting hung up on! The wanting something done now and the clothes on the floor is definitely the same with me haha! I'm definitely trying hard to pick my battles though, and remembering that I really think he puts up with a lot more with me - the need for mind reading and the crabby moods etc! :)


  19. Haha! You are not alone! My list is almost identical to yours especially wanting things done NOW! lol I think I would add that I hate how he leaves the bed a big mess when we wake up in the morning. Why can't he just get out of bed like a normal person instead of pillows & blankets on the floor? GRR! But I love him & I love sharing a home with him! I pick my battles but think he does these things on purpose to drive me crazy!

  20. LOL, this post is cute! Its good to remember that most times we only hear the good parts of people's relationships, not the bad/annoying. Everyone is different, but you guys embrace each others differences and love each other regardless!



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